Our relationships help or hinder:
- Our health status
- Our successes in business and career
- The way we live our everyday lives
- Our relationships determine everything we experience.
Yet, we often slip into dynamics that are not nurturing, but destructive. Maybe you're used to it, maybe you think "this is how life is" - but what if it could be different?
If you are experiencing even one of the following in your relationship, it is time to rethink where you are headed and dare to choose a change that will truly contribute to your happiness.
1. No respect
This is a sign that you don't respect yourself. When you respect yourself, you are able to "sense" disrespectful situations and relationships in advance, so you can avoid them. Before you get into a relationship, make sure that (mutual) respect is essential for both of you.
2. No trust
If you are doubted or if you doubt others - it destroys and does not build the relationship. Learn to trust yourself and the other person even if they have abused it in the past. Remember: You can always be there for yourself - and if someone comes along who considers this equally important in their own life, you will discover new dimensions of the relationship.
3. No honesty
Unspoken words have a powerful effect. No matter how hard it is to say something, it's worth doing it, because otherwise the tension will escalate. Unfortunately, "sweeping things under the rug" doesn't work. Say everything openly to the other person (and to yourself), and you'll experience more flow in your relationships.
4. No vulnerability
If the other person always seems strong, or you always have to be strong, it hinders true intimacy. Vulnerability is when you don't have "walls" in front of the other person. You are partners, not enemies. If a relationship is about fighting or showing off, it's not a relationship, it's an unnecessary competition in which someone has to lose. In a real relationship, everyone wins.
5. There is a lot of criticism and judgment
One of the most important things is not to judge - neither others nor ourselves. This requires constant practice. For example, a relationship can be nourishing if you feel like you are not being judged and can be yourself with the other person. This is called appreciation.
Essence
Dare to change if you're not in a good place, because if you don't, you'll never know what you've missed.
Become what brings out the best in others around you.