An ecstatic feeling comes over us when we meet someone who possesses the qualities we have lost, given away, or taken from us. That person's being fills the emptiness within us, and we can feel that we are finally "whole."
We would do anything to keep that feeling alive. This is the key to understanding what happens when we are magnetically attracted to another person for seemingly no particular reason.
The real reason for the attraction
When we find the “missing” pieces in others, we are drawn to them powerfully and irresistibly. We may even think we “need” them in our lives, until we remember that what is so attractive about them was once within us.
He's just sleeping now.
If we realize that we still have these qualities, we can bring them back into our lives. If we do this, we will suddenly realize that we are no longer so strongly attracted to the person who reflected these traits in us.
It's not the other person who creates this feeling in us, it's ourselves. The fire, the joy, and the energy we feel with them are actually us. These are the "lost" parts of ourselves that we want to reclaim.
The meeting
When you meet someone who sparks a sense of familiarity in you, please immerse yourself in the moment.
Something rare and precious is happening:
You have found someone who holds the pieces you have been looking for. Often this experience is a two-way street, as the other person is drawn to you for the same reasons.
Start talking - about anything, as long as you maintain eye contact.
And in the meantime, ask yourself this question:
"What do I see in him that is lost from me, given away, or taken from me?"
You will get the answer almost immediately. It may be something very simple, like a realization, or an inner voice that you recognize because it has been with you since childhood. The answer is often a single word or a short sentence.
Deeper insights
Your body knows what holds meaning for you. Maybe you simply recognize a beauty in her that you think is missing from you at the moment. Maybe you are captivated by her innocence as she gracefully walks among the shelves in the store, her confidence as she goes about her tasks, or simply the vitality that emanates from her.
It only takes a few seconds, a few minutes at most, to meet. These short seconds create an opportunity to feel the happiness and excitement of the moment. This is you, finding in another person something that is already yours – you feel as if you have awakened.
"We find wholeness within ourselves as others reflect our true nature."
In these feelings we find the things we want to own, even though they are with us - albeit covered by a mask.
With the mask we believe we are. It's natural. It's human.
Understanding what your feelings towards others really reveal about you gives you the tool to discover your greatest strength.